Feeling Angry And Not Knowing Why
It is a kind of annoyance that pervades your mood, but also your body. You are annoyed. You are hot and feel a feeling of heaviness in your head. You may also experience throat tightness and chest tightness. It is anger, which often assails you and sometimes you don’t know exactly why.
When anger develops from a concrete stimulus, such as an offensive action or an unpleasant situation, it is much easier to establish a course to follow. You have various alternatives: get angry, digest what happened and let it go or manage the matter in a civilized way. However, when anger is not directed towards something or someone in particular, but simply permeates your entire emotional world, then it is more difficult to keep it under control.
In the beginning, anger is a positive emotion, in the sense that it allows you to resist circumstances that are frustrating or threatening to you. It is simply a defensive or attacking reaction, which allows a person to reassert himself. When this anger becomes dull and constant, that is, when it turns into permanent irritability and paralyzes you, due to insignificant events, then it is necessary to analyze the situation.
The anger that persists and grows more and more
We all know people who always seem to be angry. They seem tense and significantly worried every day, no matter if positive or negative events occur. They seem to be immune to what is happening around them, because they continue to stay angry. They are said to be like “sparks” that at the slightest unpleasant stimulus burst into a fire of enormous proportions.
What happens to these people who feel anger and can’t explain why? In general, these are individuals who have learned a wrong lesson, that is, they believe that starting a conflict is an effective way to achieve a goal. Because they have a hard time tolerating or understanding who thinks or acts differently from them, they get angry and complain about not behaving as they would like, rightly or wrongly.
For the chronically irascible there is only one way of life, one way of feeling and one way of acting, which they consider “correct”. They feel they have to react with anger when they “catch” someone doing something wrong. They can’t stand the feeling of chaos in the world because, most likely, they themselves feel an inner chaos that they can keep under control by showing themselves “psycho-rigid”.
They are also usually people who have difficulty expressing their emotions. It is common for them to repress what they feel inside and are able to manifest it only through an attack of anger. This emotion gives them the necessary impulse to say what they have always kept silent. For this reason, their words are exaggerated and almost always reflect an extreme or disproportionate view of a situation.
A monster that ends up devouring its creator
There are times when anger is really a factor that brings order, that sets limits and that avoids more serious evils. A good truth, spoken at the right time and “without anesthesia”, allows you to put the dots on the “i” and avoid harmful circumstances.
The ideal would be to always have enough control to say everything in moderation and measure. But it is not always possible, our instinctive and emotional brain is much older than the rational one and we cannot avoid it suddenly taking control. In fact it is good that, at times, we know that we too have our own temper.
When it comes to constant irritability, however, instead of favoring a healthy situation, a dynamic can be unleashed that ends up compromising the well-being of those who get angry. The irascible wants order, correction or whatever you want to call it. But what he gets with his screams and complaints is quite the opposite: more disorder, more mistakes, fewer solutions.
These people end up contaminating all of their relationships with tension and conflict. Sooner or later you always end up receiving what you give. It is very likely, therefore, that anyone who gets angry becomes a victim of their own actions. Others become more demanding and intolerant towards the irascible and are ill-disposed in his presence. Become a person who annoys, who is constantly being judged, who no one can stand.
It is not unusual for this constant irritability to be accompanied by depression and anxiety. Sadness for the frustration that comes with feeling helpless in the face of the impossibility of everything going the way you want. Anxiety for the same reason and for the multiplicity of conflicts in which we find ourselves involved.
In the end, these attitudes are just a way to waste the better side of life. It is clear that if you feel anger all the time and you don’t even know why, it will only cause emotional paralysis and it takes more than a new stimulus to unblock the situation. It is necessary to ask for the help of a professional.
